Who is the boss at home? 皓俊5岁生日

In a traditional Chinese family, the father is the authority head who supports the family solely and has the final say of everything. In a current Chinese family, the wife is usually the one who is in control, evidenced by the numerous controls that some of my friends in China have over the financial and domestic matters as well as the tight control over the husband. It might be prompted by the insecurity of married women in this ever changing, ever tempting society. In an ideal world, I fancy a strike of balance that both parties contribute ideas, discuss issues and concur solutions. I have been whining to my friends in the past few days that I have given up too much decision making power to the other half. I might be the financial minister of the family, who runs all the admin matters, produces monthly P&L, does research on the options, presents proposals, and be scuritinised of the proposals by the prime minister. Actually, I wanted my kids to have the impression that Daddy is the king, however, not to their knowledge, mummy is the empreress behind the vail. :) It hurts me a little when Han Jin insists that we should ask for daddy's permission when mei mei wants to watch TV. Seems I have little power left in my hands by always showing respect to the supportive husband. No doubt, he is supportive of any decision that I make, but lately I didn't make any decisions all by myself, and I guess it became a habit that daddy has the final say.

I kept wondering in this current society, when women become more and more successful in career and contribute equally financially, what is the role that we play at home? When we become capable of making decisions in office, standing up to our male counterparts, or giving orders to our male subordinates, are we still the submissive little wife at home?

I still fancy the balance of power at home. And, to be balanced, I will take a step to make a decision... to buy a better camera, and to buy an iphone.. hahaha....

下午去了图书馆，几张瀚今瀚月认真读书，抢书的照片。

In the library, I hope to cultivate their love for books

夜幕降临，皓俊5岁生日庆祝开始了，大大的PowerRanger（咸蛋超人？）蛋糕。孩子们在楼下的游乐场玩的很开心。其实这样简单而温馨的生日很美！对孩子们而言，有蛋糕和大堆垃圾食品（玲玲为此被抨击哦），还有朋友们的欢聚就已经让他们很开心了！虽然我的卡片机照不出灯光下的橙色温馨，可记忆中暖暖的烛光和火花会存下来！

HaoJun's birthday party under the moon, with lots of junk food and activities, kids loved it